Ever wondered that you’ve had a temperature since yesterday and your sixteen-year-old son hasn’t walked into your room and asked about your health? Teens’ involvement with the family, for household chores or general discussions has reduced. As a parent, how often do you ask your teens how they are doing in their geography project or on a physics assignment? If we feel that since we don’t understand geography and physics and so we don’t ask, this is a serious slip-up.
It reflects the overall environment of family, of how concerned we are about others in the family. And kids take tips from our daily routine and it grows into the so-called indifference of our teens. They have their own problems in schools, with friends, their own likes, tastes, priorities and concerns. So, they need space and time. However, if you show them concern and extend your helping hand, they are most likely to be more involved in the family affairs. For example, while having car wash in the morning, you can have bicycle wash as well. This makes you spend some time together, sharing moments.
Certain factors such as having separate television sets for kids, parents’ decreased interest in studies of their teens, having meals individually at different times, and not frequently planning an outdoor activity are responsible for teens’ lack of sense of involvement in the family affairs. In earlier generations, the whole family would sit and have meals together. There was no internet or video games where kids would spend hours alone, away from parents. Parents had time to enquire about their kids’ studies, about activities in their schools, to ask how they were spending their pocket money, and so on. All these interested kids in the day-to-day activities of family, and it cultivated a sense of involvement.
Parents who can help their teens in studies or in learning piano or baseball should tell them that they too help their siblings. Teens generally learn everything from the parents, neighbors and society. Encouraging bonding and feeling of affection helps, and believe it – teens need as much love from parents as kids and people of any other age group.